Comments on: Weekend reading: Don’t get ill

By: The Investor

The Investor — Sun, 15 Nov 2009 10:23:47 +0000

@The Digerati Life – Thank you for your kind thoughts and words. It must be very hard to know your parents are getting old elsewhere. One of my parents was in a similar position, and it produced difficult ‘either/or’ choices with no ideal solution. I hope you find a solution that works well enough for you.

By: The Digerati Life

The Digerati Life — Thu, 12 Nov 2009 02:18:43 +0000

So sorry to hear about your dad. It’s one thing that I find hard to think about… the aging process — not just what’s in store for my parents but also what’s in store for me and my own kids over the next several decades. I’m particularly anxious because I’m a first generation immigrant whose parents live elsewhere.

I’d like to send you and your family good thoughts.

By: The Investor

The Investor — Tue, 10 Nov 2009 09:20:25 +0000

Thanks for your thoughts everyone. Steve – I agree, even though I’ve seen it unfold with my parents (and been amazed at their strength, particularly my mother’s, of course) I still can’t quite imagine how hard it is. I keep trying to imagine the moment they met, and then a flash forward to today. But I guess the strength comes from everything the flash-forward skips by. Or maybe it’s because there’s no choice? I don’t know.

By: FB @ FabulouslyBroke.com

FB @ FabulouslyBroke.com — Mon, 09 Nov 2009 20:53:34 +0000

You really loved that post of mine, eh?

I think it’s a thorny issue between couples with SO many incredible points of view from men and women.

I sound pretty black & white on the issue, but that’s because I’ve never had any experience to dictate otherwise.

I have earned more AND earned less than my partner, and in both cases, I want to pay 50% of all the bills within reason.

Thanks for the link

By: grover

grover — Sun, 08 Nov 2009 16:30:04 +0000

Money is useless if not shared, to better experience the world with loved ones. Conversely, caring for a loved one can be more rewarding than anything in the world.

Best of luck from a different ex-colony.

By: MDJ

MDJ — Sat, 07 Nov 2009 22:11:20 +0000

Thanks for the mention!

By: Steve

Steve — Sat, 07 Nov 2009 20:38:55 +0000

Wow, excellent point you’ve made in this article and in the “money can’t buy me love” article. I think it’s a point that needs to be made by almost all personal finance blogs on a regular basis. Not even the “I enjoy activities that don’t cost money” types of articles, but a reminder that some things have nothing to do with money one way or the other.

Good luck to your father, and to your mother – seeing my grandmother deal with my grandfather as he declined prior to his death made me realize that providing lots of care is physically exhausting. That would be bad enough without the emotional toll exacted. People do it for those they love, of course, but short of caring for a dying child I can’t imagine anything more difficult than trying to care for a slowly failing spouse. It’s tough on everyone, and you and your family have my sympathy.

By: Financial Samurai

Financial Samurai — Sat, 07 Nov 2009 19:27:52 +0000

I wish your father the best of health. It’s scary how quickly time flies. Hang in there!

By: The Investor

The Investor — Sat, 07 Nov 2009 16:32:45 +0000

Thanks Molly, most kind of you.

By: Molly

Molly — Sat, 07 Nov 2009 14:53:22 +0000

I’m a new reader enjoying your posts. Just wanted to reach across the Atlantic and extend my sympathies to you and your family, and especially your dad. Intrigued because this is all too familiar, I read your original “Money can’t buy me love” post -it’s very eloquent… Again, best wishes to you all during a really tough time. Cherish one another and these moments.