I believe Facebook will one day be seen as important a leveling force for humanity as the Magna Carta, the Suffragettes and the International Bill of Human Rights.
Why? Because what strikes you when you click through other people’s profiles is how similar we all are.
We no longer collectively aspire to marriage, 2.4 kids in the suburbs and cutting our lawn on Sundays in formation.
Yet we mostly have similar gangs of friends who crowd in front of the camera or who take photos of us on bridges during breaks in far-flung cities.
We all say we like books, films and music that thousands of others like.
We’re different, but we’re recognisable by our similarities. We rally around them.
But there’s another thing that strikes you when first encountering Facebook, if you’re over a certain age.
It is harder to write about, but even more true.
Up until a year or so ago, most people kept their Facebook profiles open. This meant you could snoop about the friends and family of your own friends, and get a glimpse into their lives.
Most Facebook users then were 20-somethings, so if you were my age you saw endless snapshots into a time of life that was now in your past.
And one thing is clear: Young people are ridiculously beautiful.
Your gran was right: you are/were gorgeous
We don’t realise how stunning we all are when we’re young, of course.
Instead we lust over the same particularly cute girl in college, or gossip about the same muscled guy in the mail room.
But from the perspective of a decade or two, almost everyone in their late teens and 20s radiates beauty.
It’s an uncomfortable truth (especially if you’re getting on a bit!) but it’s true nonetheless.
Still, just to make sure I’m not some lecherous old man, I sounded out this observation with respect to Facebook with friends and strangers of both sexes while on my recent holiday.
In a few cases it took a drink or two to get them to open up, and some of the responses veered towards the coarser end of aesthetic appreciation!
Bu it was remarkable how virtually everyone (the men most enthusiastically, it has to be admitted) had clicked through a younger sibling’s profile and gasped (/drooled) over the photos of the friends they found.
In the Facebook profiles of 40-somethings, beauty is the exception. In the profiles of 25-year olds, beauty is the norm.
Young? You’re rich already
So why am I writing about this on Monevator, a site about investing and securing your financial future?
Because with the perspective of time, I see I really didn’t need to spend much on clothes and pick-me-ups when I was in my twenties.
I’m putting this out onto the Internet because it is something I have learned about life that could make a difference to people’s financial futures, if they’ll listen.
Would I have listened when 25? I was hardly a clothes horse, but even as a man I did go through a somewhat materialistic phase, where I had to have just one more great suit or pairs of shoes than I needed.
Looking back, I should have stuck to t-shirts, trainers and jeans.
Of course, this post has no audience on this site. I can’t imagine many 20-something women in particular will read it – yet they’re the ones who really are wasting their cash.
True, for all the advances of the sexual revolution, men are still partly evaluated more for their possessions and potential than for their appearance, whereas however unfairly, looks remain towards the top of the list for men judging women.
In that sense, it may make sense for women to spend thousands on expensive dresses, haircuts and make-up every year.
Except that most men don’t really notice expensive dresses and haircuts (or, at the risk of peddling stereotypes even further, it’s only really my gay male friends who do). We notice when a woman is physically beautiful, but we’d struggle to say it was because of the right label or fit.
It’s depressing to me now to walk down Oxford Street in London and see young women bundling along the pavement having spent all their money on clothes they don’t need to look like knockouts.
I’m told by female friends they do this mainly for other women, so perhaps the solution is to hang out with older women. They will be too envious of how good you make a skinny t-shirt and your boyfriend’s jeans look to dare suggest a shopping trip.
Enjoy your youth, and save the money instead
The difference that spending £100 a month less on clothes during your twenties and investing it instead will make to your future is incredible.
If you can save £5,000 by age 25 and invest it for average returns in the stock market, you’ll have £225,000 in your retirement pot by the time you’re 65, regardless of what you save during the rest of your life.
As I say, few young people will read Monevator. Perhaps if you have a younger relative or friend, you could forward it to them?
To conclude, I don’t think youth is wasted on the young, but I do think a lot of money is. If you invest it to benefit from decades of compound interest, you’ll be grateful when you’re older.
Needless to say, running up debts to spend on clothes in your 20s is insane. You are only borrowing from your future self, who will be poorer because of it, and who won’t have the other benefits – freedom, time, potential, beauty – that you enjoy now.
Your looks won’t last, and nor will it matter in 20 years what strangers in a club think of you tonight.
If it really bothers you, dress simply but economically and hang around with older people who’ll think you look marvelous. (We’ve got more to say for ourselves, too.)
“The problem with beauty is that it’s like being born rich and getting poorer.” – Joan Collins
Young? You’re beautiful already. Save and invest for the future instead.
Image by: Valentin Ottone
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Wow. Great article!
“I don’t think youth is wasted on the young, but I do think a lot of money is.” Bingo. I couldn’t have said it any better!
My heart sinks just a little every time I think back to all of the money I wasted in my twenties (and even my teens) on absolutely insane things.
The real root of the problem boils down to perspective; it is such a powerful influence on all of us.
Not only does age bring us the wisdom that allows us to make consistently better decisions, it also allows gives us a very different perspective vis-a-vis our finances that encourages us to invest and save.
Most people in their twenties, unlike those of us in our 40s or older, look ahead and see a very long time horizon. As a result they feel comfortable ignoring the need to save and/or invest for the future. This behavior tends to get compounded by their tight budgets.
Hopefully, those in their 20s that do read articles like these will take the advice to heart and save and invest like they should.
The reality is it’s just so hard to heed the message when coming at it from the perspective of youth.
My $0.02 (after taxes),
Len
Len Penzo dot Com
I wonder whether age really does enable us to make consistently better decisions? Particularly with finances, I’m not sure people get smarter – I think rather than society has created some pretty effective railroads for people to get onto once they’re out of their mid-20s (for instance buying a house, or having a career) that can be fairly effective for personal wealth provided you keep paying your mortgage and aspire to a corner office.
In contrast, 20-year olds can really do anything – the world is their oyster, and their horizons as you say are so long – that perhaps it’s not surprising they don’t see the game-changing opportunity of early savings, compounded for 40 years?
Thanks for stopping by and commenting Len.
You’re very welcome… I’ve been a big Monevator fan for a while now. You and Plonkee are my favorites from your side of the pond!
I know I failed to truly take advantage of the benefits of compounding savings until I was in my late 20s, despite being aware of them. Although that probably says more about my lack of intelligence, I’ll blame that on the arrogance of youth – that’s my story and I’m sticking to it! lol
All the best,
Len
Being 26 now, I think I caught myself just in time. I was setting myself up for a lifetime of debt and nothing more up until 9 months ago (aged 25). Granted I can’t jump in a time machine, slap my 15 year old self around the head and then get 10 years of investing behind me… but it’s better than being 45, broke and wondering if retirement at 85 is potentially possible.
Thanks for the reaffirmation.
Lee.
As a 27 year old debt-free (yahoo! until I close on my first home next week anyway) single gal, this post really resonated with me. I am very thankful that I started saving for retirement along with my first job at 15 and am fairly certain I will have a very different lifestyle in old age than my many friends who choose to buy the designer purses and shoes now. I hope more young ladies read your site than you expect – there’s always room for gaining knowledge in personal finance.
Thanks for sharing your thoughts Meg. I’ve had some lovely comments about this post, especially via private contact (via the link above) which does suggest it reached and resonated with a few more people than I expected, which is great. Good luck with your endeavors – sounds like you’re well on your way!
The problem is, WHEN YOU ARE YOUNG, you don’t think about the future! Many students in college don’t even realise that they should make the maximum amount of effort to get the best grades!…Some spend valuable time going out to pubs and nightclubs, spending money there (of course!) when they could do something more useful (how about saving money to travel to foreign countries??? They would certainly learn more from the experience!
When I was twenty, I used to spend money (and time!) on things which seem so unimportant NOW!
When people are overspending, there is also something missing in their lives, like LOVE, happiness…otherwise why do we have shopaholics?!…
I give them ONE advice, find out what is missing in your life and find some other hobby which interest you instead of shopping – it won’t gratify your needs in the LONG RUN…!
When I had my first baby, I realised the importance of saving, concentrating on study and looking for a job!
Cheers!
@Irina, very wise words – always good to hear from someone who has been there and got the badge. I was lucky in that I shook off the spending itch very early in my life, but I still spent too much on stuff I shouldn’t have (e.g. clothes) and perhaps not enough on where my money should have gone (e.g. travel). Luckily dinner and similar with friends and my partner was always in the mix… it’s all about love as you say, however hard it is to say that in your 20s.
Well, i am 26 years old. In the last 3 years i spent 30,000.00 on traveling,new computer and a car i couldn’t maintain. Do you guys think it’s bad spending 30,000.00 in 3 years traveling and buying things you want? now i am finishing my degree and getting into my job as a police officer. It’s depressing to know that i had savings and spent it. It haunts me everyday! Also when i attend school, i pay for it right away so i come out with no depts. Please give me some feed-back.
@Mills – I wouldn’t beat yourself up. It’s not ideal in my book, but many people will tell you that you did the right thing enjoying yourself while you were young. If you’ve got no debts and you’ve already had this ‘wake up call’ at your young age, I wouldn’t worry as you’ll hopefully have a good attitude going forward, know to avoid debts and save and so on. Some people are 50 or more before they realize that, when it’s usually too late. Good luck!
Great post.
I completely agree. Young people are rich.
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Wow, look at me posting on this article that was created last year…
But I have to say, you are correct. Perhaps that is why younger woman date older men… Because the older men can see how beautiful the younger woman really are…
Oh, by the way… great quote by Joan Collins, it rings very true!
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@MR – Blog posts never die! Thanks for posting your thoughts, feel free to do so on any old posts where you have something to share.
I read this post and it inspires me to do better with myself. I aspire to be wealthy, and I always look for tips and mentors to guide me. I’m only 21 but in a few years time I would like to able to write an article giving advice as to how I became successful for people younger then me who are seeking advice like I am. Thank you for your wise words. And also to the people commenting on this, your insight is eye opening.